It’s not new, this has been an ongoing event. The beauty and self realization of someone who recognizes and acts on the need, the desire, the self awareness to work on themselves.
That’s what he’s doing, my ex husband. He’s “just working on himself”. Take a selfish person put them in The Program, gives them the excuse to expand on his selfishness. Of course he can’t see it because, well…. He’s selfish.
My brother summed it up for me. So simple really. I have pondered the ludicrously of the situation, but now I get it. When they explain that “I’m just working on myself”, it’s just another way of saying, “I’ve found a great way of doing nothing”, makes sense, because the rest of us are “being ourselves”, while we get shit done. It’s not always fun, it’s not always rewarding, we are not given a cake on each anniversary date that we complete, ummmm getting shit done.
Think about it, it will come to you. Think hard, ponder about that person…. Are they actually “doing” anything. Right?
So my brother isn’t fiddy something, he’s sidedly something, but he’s welcome in my club anytime.