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Flashback on Addictive Behavior

You know how in a movie theren is a flashback that helps you to put it all together to figure out what’s going on? Can you have a flashback in a blog? I don’t know if you can or not, but I’m giving you one anyway. The history will come, so stay tuned.

I’m in my office, back office of our IT firm, my “husband’s” business, always in the back office, the back seat. Tucked away making it all happen. Yeah it’s a metaphor, the program calls it “enabling”, people that don’t have that excuse call it making a living.

He decides to hire yet another assistant, someone from “The Program”, always the one to help everyone, anyone, everyone…..but “us”.  I don’t like or dislike her, it’s not the point, and she’s not the first one he’s attempted to save; whatever.  But a day comes shortly after she’s hired that she just doesn’t show up for work, a day, another,  a week, two weeks goes by. When she comes back she and my “husband” are standing in my “office/storage room” and I make a comment about how nice it is to have her back, my sarcasm lost on the selfishness of this personality type. Her response is, and I quote “my friend showed up unexpectedly and well you know, she’s fifty and divorced, what could i do?” I just looked at her with a blank stare. In her defense, I think she got that.

So, yeah my husband forgives her for taking off time unapproved and unannounced, just a no show, to spend time with her friend because there is a silent desperation of being “fiddy something” that requires a “friend” to be there for her and certainly my “husband” should be the one to front the cost, emotionally and otherwise of that event. Poor thing, but how wonderful that she has such a great friend to support her.  Really? Who’s emotional and financial pocket is that coming from? WOW!